Hi there, I'm glad you're here.
I'm Alex, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate. I work with women and couples who may look like they're doing just fine on the outside while feeling something very different underneath.
I bring warmth, curiosity, and honesty to our work. I'll listen closely, ask questions, share what I'm noticing, and stay with you when things get uncomfortable. I won't sit back and make you do all the work, and I won't pretend to have all the answers either. We'll figure things out together. I'll bring my clinical perspective, and you bring yourself.
There can be depth here without having to take ourselves too seriously. We might laugh. (Probably will.) We might sit with something difficult. Most of all, you don't have to show up polished. You can just show up.
Okay, enough about me.
You notice everyone else.
You know what people need, how they're feeling, and when somehing is off. You're less sure of what you need.
You're good at being fine.
You function. You show up. You don't let people see how much you're carrying.
You want to feel known.
But letting people see the messy, needy, uncertain parts of you doesn't always feel safe.
Ways to work together
Whether you’re coming on your own or with someone you love, we’ll start with what’s happening now and get curious about what’s underneath.
These patterns make sense
Sometimes the loneliest place to be is inside a life that looks perfectly fine.
The things you do to stay connected usually make sense when you understand what they're protecting. The ways you learned to navigate relationships didn't come from nowhere. They often developed as ways of staying connected, keeping things steady, or protecting yourself when you needed to. Sometimes, the ways we learned to protect connection can end up getting in the way of it.
Self-Abandonment
You lose track of yourself. You adapt so easily to the people around you that your own feelings, needs, and wants can get pushed aside. Staying connected to yourself can feel harder than staying connected to everyone else.
Relationship Patterns
You keep ending up in familiar places. The people or circumstances may change, but somehow the same feelings, dynamics, or disappointments keep showing up. You want something different, but aren't always sure how to get there.
People Pleasing
You notice everyone else. You know what people need, how they're feeling, and when something is off. It's harder to know what you need when you're so used to making things easy for everyone else. can explore who you are underneath the roles, doubts, and pressure to get it right.
Self-Doubt
You don't quite trust yourself. You second-guess your feelings, decisions, and instincts, even when some part of you already knows. You may find yourself looking outside yourself for reassurance that you're allowed to feel what you feel.
Overfunctioning
You're the one who handles things. You remember, anticipate, organize, fix, and keep everything moving. Being capable comes naturally, but it can leave you carrying more than your share and rarely letting yourself be cared for.
Feeling Alone
You want to feel truly known. You may have people you love and relationships that matter deeply, but still find yourself holding parts of yourself back. Sometimes the hardest part isn't finding connection. It's letting yourself be seen inside it.
What therapy with me is like
You don't have to come in with everything figured out. We'll pay attention to what's happening, get curious about it together, and go from there.
I'm not a blank wall
I'll listen closely, tell you what I'm noticing, ask questions, and sometimes gently interrupt. I'll take the work seriously, but I don't think therapy has to feel stiff or overly formal. You'll get a therapist who is present, engaged, and genuinely with you in the room.
We get curious about what keeps happening
We'll talk about what's going on in your life, but we'll also pay attention to the patterns that show up along the way. What you keep doing, feeling, avoiding, or getting stuck in can tell us something important. We'll get curious about it together, without judging what we find.
We make space for the hard stuff
You don't have to make something easier, prettier, or more understandable before you bring it to me. If something feels uncomfortable or messy, we can stay with it together. We don't have to have an answer right away.
For couples, we slow the pattern down
When you keep having the same conversation, it can be hard to see what's actually happening between you. I'll help slow things down, organize what I'm hearing, and name the patterns I notice so you can see the cycle more clearly. We'll pay attention to what's happening between you, as well as what's happening for each of you individually. The goal isn't to decide who's right. It's to help you both feel more understood and find a different way of being together.
You don't have to choose between being yourself and being connected.
Whether you're feeling disconnected from yourself or from someone you love, therapy can be a place to understand what's happening and find a way forward. Reaching out can feel vulnerable, but you don't have to do it perfectly. We'll have a low-pressure, 15-minute chat to see if we might be a good fit.
Some things to know
What are your fees?
Individual Therapy | $150 | 50 minutes
Couples/Relationship Therapy | $170 | 50 minutes
Couples/Relationship Therapy | $220 | 80 minutes
I keep a limited number of sliding scale spots available. If cost is a barrier, feel free to ask about current availability.
Do you accept insurance?
I don’t accept insurance directly. Choosing not to work with insurance allows for more privacy, flexibility, and care that is guided by your needs rather than insurance requirements.
Insurance may require a mental health diagnosis, limit the number or type of sessions covered, and require sensitive clinical information for claims. Working privately allows us to look beyond symptom reduction and explore the deeper patterns underneath what brings you to therapy at a pace and depth that fits your needs.
I’m happy to provide a superbill if you’d like to explore possible out-of-network reimbursement through your plan. Feel free to use the tool below to check your out-of-network benefits.
Do you offer Saturday therapy sessions?
Yes. I offer limited Saturday appointments for individual and couples therapy, both in person in Seattle and virtually. Availability varies, so please reach out to ask about current openings.